Your Autistic Life

Author: yourautisticlife

  • Getting Rid of Old Shit

    I’m lightening the load. Don’t think for one second that getting rid of old shit is easy for me. I do find all kinds of reasons to keep stuff around, but life events sometimes insist on your making the decision to get rid of shit. My divorce was such an event. I had to part…

  • On Zen Practice

    The revolutionary art of unlearning. I don’t think that what follows is especially original. It was probably communicated to me at the beginning of my practice, but I was too bewildered and stupid to understand it. It is only now, after years of practice, that I finally understand what was communicated. When I talk about…

  • Why Are Autistic Folks Generally Tolerant?

    I do have a simple theory. My theory is that it is because we don’t generally believe in arbitrary social conventions. Those very same conventions usually do not serve us, autistic folks, well. Once the social conventions that oppress us daily are seen as arbitrary, it does not take much to realize that most other…

  • UnitedHealth’s Stupidity Is Suffocating

    What kind of idiots run this company?????????? UnitedHealth was hit in a data breach. They did exactly what you should not do. For fuck’s sake! You do not need to be a genius to fucking know what I’m going to fucking tell you here. If you guessed that I am mad, well, bingo! You win…

  • GGG: Giving and Game, yes, but Good???

    How can anyone label themselves good in the abstract? Photo by Michael Prewett on Unsplash I have a problem with the label GGG that I see so often in dating profiles on the dating apps. This label means Good, Giving, and Game. It was coined by sex columnist Dan Savage. I get that diligent people…

  • Clipped Wings

    An ex-partner of mine asked me to fly with clipped wings. I declined the offer. Photo by Raindrops Photography on Unsplash I’m tired. I’m tired of encountering people who don’t know what they want, and who don’t know what polyamory is or have a contorted opinion of what it is. I’m damn tired. You need…

  • The “I’ll Expose Your Behavior” Scam

    Don’t send them any money. Nothing bad will happen to you. How do I know? Well, for one thing, I’ve received several of these emails throughout the years. I’ve never sent any money. Nothing bad happened. For good measure, two scammers tried this tactic with me on the dating apps. When they revealed themselves, I…

  • The Examined Life

    The discovery of my neurodivergence has been a blessing in disguise, for, together with other crises, it forced me to examine my life. I know for a fact that some people won’t accept that neurodivergence is a blessing at all. These folks sometimes wish that they would be able to do away with their own…

  • Walmart Is Ableist

    If you are neurodivergent and prefer to use self-checkout, well, screw you! See, Walmart has been implementing policies about the use of self-checkout. These policies have come to the Walmart where I shop. The self-checkout lanes are now 15 items or less, or they are Scan & Go. Judging from the articles I’ve found by…

  • What Is Stimming?

    Stimming is a way to bring order to our nervous system. The explanation I’m going to give you here is that of a layman trying to understand himself. I am not a psychologist, or a psychiatrist. I don’t know that this is a generalizable explanation even. Maybe it holds only for some neurodivergent folks but…